Unexpected Advice

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Rejection. It is something that sucks and no matter how thick you think your skin is, it still hurts. Recently I had another writing rejection. I’ve had some time to think it through and I’ve realised there are several stages to dealing with rejection.

  1. Sadness and denial: it’s happened again. But it was perfect this time! You went over it, checked every detail, there was absolutely nothing wrong and you simply don’t get why you’re being rejected.
  2. Anger:  Screw them! They don’t know what an awesome story they are missing out on. You’re brilliant.
  3. Acceptance: Maybe other people simply had a better story concept, or yours wasn’t what they were looking for this time. Just maybe your story wasn’t as great as you thought it was. Time to revise and try again.

The difference for me this time was it took me about 30 minutes to go through the stages. I usually wallow in stage 1 for a few days, stage 2 for a couple of hours (anger is so not my thing) and get to the last one feeling a little wrecked over the all thing.

I’d love to say that the reason I cycled through it quickly was because I’ve learnt to deal with it all better, but that’s not true. You see I had a training session booked at the gym about 10 minutes after getting the rejection. I was surprised by how much the physical release and focus really helped. My trainer, who competes in figure competitions rather successfully, also gave me some pretty good advice: don’t focus on the prize, focus on writing the story and being happy with it. That way if you win it’s an added bonus. Hell yes! This instantly became my mantra and I’m taking it with me into the next writing comp I’m entering.

I have to say that I feel like the potential for rejection is not as significant now. It’ll still hurt, I’m not delusional, but I’m taking it for the learning experience it is. With my trainer’s advice I’m focusing on the story, which is were I should have been focusing all along, and enjoying it for what it is. The advice was unexpected, but absolutely what I needed to hear. Have you ever had advice given to you in an unexpected moment and had it resonate? If so, I’d love to hear about it. Also any tips you have for dealing with rejection.

Well, that’s me for this week, Hope you all have a brilliant and creative week 🙂

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Going Forward

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I’m back! So, a few things are going to change around here, but nothing major so relax. I explain it as succinctly as possible below. Any questions/feedback let me know in the comments  🙂

  1. I’ll still post weekly, however some of my posts will actually be over at Her Heart Poetry. You’ll be able to find my articles by clicking on this link. I’ll post a brief overview of the article here on my site as well as the link for the post.
  2. The post at Her Heart will be formal in nature as I’m a features contributor for them. I encourage you guys to check them out, especially if you have an interest in poetry. They’re a pretty awesome community and very supportive.
  3. The posts on here will be the usual, informal me 🙂 They’ll be a mix of book reviews, introspection on my writing journey and possibly, if I can manage it, interviews with other writers! I’m very excited about that last one and hope to be able to post more about it soon.
  4. I have a new section on the site, poems. It’s currently empty, but this coming week I’ll start adding my own work there for you to read at your leisure.

That’s it! I’m excited about these changes and I hope you guys are too. Let me know what you think, this blog is for you as much as for me. See you all next week and have a wonderful and creative time 🙂

Reassessment

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Hi everyone 🙂

So I’m taking a break from the blog. I’ve realised that my way of doing things (pantsing) is actually not working and basically stressing me the hell out. I’ll be back on the 10th April with a game plan and renewed enthusiasm. In the mean time, keep creating and I’ll see you after Easter xx

The Birth of an Idea

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To others it appears as if an idea for a story or poem has come to me from no where. Completely not the case. Usually something I have heard will trigger an idea in my brain and my mind will take off and expand on it at a rapid rate. My mind simply takes a massive jump from one thing to another, often missing the obvious links in between. I like to refer to it as mental exploring, for that is what it feels like. I get this awesome idea and I examine every inch of it through writing. Sometimes I end up in new territory, other times I reach a familiar destination with a new view of it. The journey is truly the exciting bit for me.

So it was different for me to have a friend suggest a story idea and have my mind embrace it for exactly what it was. Now, I do sometimes talk to others if my current writing project is not making progress like I want. There is something about talking it out that frees up my mind. But I have never had someone suggest I write something, a particular story idea so complete that she could have written it herself, and have my mind accept it as is and want to write. I made little changes, but the story itself is undeniably her concept.

It was rather fascinating to witness in myself. With the process I mentioned previously, I’m usually too involved to really pay attention, but this time there was a small part of me that was standing back and watching it all. It was interesting to watch how it seemed to flow onto the page and by doing so, I better understand how I weave words together. Which is awesome because now I’m thinking I can better harness it. I’ve yet to actually put this into practice though!

But now to the practical side. What I’m having to work on with all this, is not getting distracted by the shiny new idea. I’ve written the first draft so it’s not rattling around in my brain, but it’s time to let it rest before tackling it again. And finish my other project.

To do this I’m using my trick of self imposed deadlines to focus. Firstly, I’m going to a masterclass with Fiona McIntosh at the end of April, so that’s deadline number one. The current edit of Balance has to be finished by then as that’s the story I’ve sent to her for feedback. While there I’ll go over the shiny new idea and work out what needs fixing/expanding with it. There will be no writing on the shiny new idea, simply notes made on it. I figure this is doable because I’ll be by myself in a hotel room for five days. After that it’ll be reassessment time. Armed with the knowledge I’ll gain from the masterclass I’ll figure out my next step. I’m actually pretty excited about it all.

What’s your creative process like? Let me know in the comments and have a happy and creative week 🙂

Writers and Emotions

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There’s something I think I need to clarify for everyone out there who doesn’t write. What writers create doesn’t necessarily reflect our mental state at the time. Yes, we more often than not draw on past experiences/emotions etc. but it doesn’t mean what we write and share reflects exactly what we think or are going through right at that moment.

I say this because I shared a poem I wrote this week on social media that had a few people checking up on me (you can find it here). Now I am super grateful that these people did so. It showed me that I have a fantastic network of friends and family around me, but it also had me thinking I need to be more clear about why I share these type of things and that I need to do so at the time of sharing. So here we go.

Firstly, I sometimes write poems because it gives me a way to work through my own emotions. At times, writing it down is all I need to be able to understand my own head, other times I need to talk it out. And I do, I’m very capable of reaching out to the awesome people in my life who care about me (love you guys!). Other times I write them because I’ve seen or heard something that triggers something inside of me, something that makes me capable of understanding an emotion without feeling it, to an extent anyway.

Secondly, I share them so that people don’t feel alone. When you’re feeling sad, angry or emotions along that line, it can often feel very isolating. If I can help one person to not feel so alone, that’s freaking brilliant. Sharing my thoughts and words doesn’t take a lot from me, simply some time. And if it helps one person not feel so alone, that’s freaking brilliant and well worth it. Some words though, are not meant to be shared and I talk more about that in this post.

Thirdly, I occasionally share other people’s work because I think it’s brilliant. Once again it doesn’t necessarily reflect my mental state at the time, but it is appreciation for another’s work. Plus there is the hope that someone, somewhere, reads it, connects with it and feels like there is someone who understands.

So there it is. I hope it gives some understanding behind why I write poems occasionally, even though I don’t consider myself a poet. My stories, I should add, are also a definite reflection of my thought processes. But by their nature, they are not as personal as poems.

Also, I’ve realised I use the word awesome a lot and am looking for replacement words. If you have any suggestions please let me know 🙂

Have a happy and creative week everyone x

A Book Launch and Me

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A little while ago I attended the book launch for Louise Allan’s The Sisters’ Song. I’ve known Louise through social media for a while and even wrote a piece for her Writer’s in the Attic series on her blog (you can read that here). Her book had garnered a lot of praise prior to the launch and I was excited to meet her in person and to get her to sign my copy of her book.

Louise was as lovely to meet in person as I had hoped and it was also lovely to meet a few other people there. But this is where things go a little different for me. I was nervous about driving to the launch, it was just over an hour from my home to an area I had never been before. The drive was good, with some very pretty scenery which was completely awesome. I met Louise pretty much straight away and that was fantastic, but then I had time on my hands.

I became a wallflower. I sat beside a lovely lady who talked to me and a few others, but I was terrified to get up and mingle. In hindsight, I really should have dragged my brother along like I nearly did (he was keen to see if there were any hot single woman there). He can get me out of my shell and also has absolutely no trouble talking to everyone near him. We are complete opposites in that regard. But I didn’t and the reality is that I can’t rely on him, I need to figure this out on my own.

The ladies I was sitting near were lovely to talk to, I need to make that clear, but there were plenty of other people I had been talking to through social media at the launch and I didn’t talk to any of them. Some I truly didn’t realise were there until I checked Twitter later that night, but a couple I did and simply lacked the courage to talk to in person. There’s a reason I’m a writer and a lover of social media. I have this fear that people won’t remember me in person. It isn’t rational, but that’s the trouble with fears, they often aren’t.

But I’m determined to face it head on. What’s the worst that can happen? I’ll have to jog someone’s memory and they might not remember me still, but that’s ok. We’re already talking and if it gets awkward we can move on to another topic. Probably books seeing as that’s what has drawn us together in the first place.

So fellow social media friends, if you see me lurking in the background at any future events, know that I do actually want to meet you, I’m just slightly terrified at the prospect of it.

Have a happy and creative week everyone and sorry Kat. I know this was suppose to be an upbeat and happy post, but hey, it’s important so others don’t feel alone 🙂

 

You can found out more about The Sisters’ Song and where to buy it here. I highly recommend it. I cried while reading it and immediately gave it to my mum to read and she cried as well. It’s a wonderful story of two sisters and their lives over 70+ years. Read it.

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Hi guys! Welcome to my blog and the next stop on the Esme’s Wish blog tour 🙂 Below is my quick review of Esme’s Wish, as well as the rest of the tour dates. Scroll to the bottom of the post to find out about the live Twitter chat and the link to click for a chance at some awesome prizes. Enjoy the story and congratulations Elizabeth on a beautiful book!

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Esme’s Wish by Elizabeth Foster is a beautiful story set in Aeolia, a magical world that the main character, Esme, accidentally reaches through a rock pool on Spindrift Island. Once there, Esme realises that her missing mother use to be a frequent visitor to the capital of Aeolia, the city of Esperance, and begins retracing her footsteps. Esme is soon drawn into the struggles Esperance is experiencing, as the land and the magical gifts people have, continue to be unpredictable, sometimes with severe consequences. Full of magic, Esme’s Wish is a lovely story dealing with the love a daughter has for her mother and trusting yourself and others. Esme’s Wish is a fantastic story for young teenagers and is a wonderful addition to YA lit.

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BLOG TOUR SCHEDULE

18 February (Sunday)

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20 February (Tuesday)

21 February (Wednesday)

22 February (Thursday)

23 February (Friday)

24 February (Saturday)

  • #EsmePH Twitter chat (8:00 AM Philippines / 8:00 PM EST)
  • Announcement of Twitter chat giveaway winner

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Click the link for another chance to enter the Esme’s Wish Rafflecopter giveaway.

You can buy a copy of Esme’s Wish at:

Goodreads — https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/33634667-esme-s-wish

Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Esmes-Wish-Elizabeth-Foster/dp/1925652246